I don’t subscribe the “New Year, New Me” mantra that tends to flood our feeds this time of year. People vowing to reinvent themselves in one way or another only to revert back after a few month later because the challenges they’ve set themselves are too much to take on at once.
Don’t get me wrong; I strongly believe in and encourage self improvement. But I believe it’s best done in bite size chunks.
Be a more confident Mum. Too often I let the comments of other parents get under my skin. Whether they think my daughter should be walking/talking/doing somersaults by now sometimes makes me question my ability to parent, like I’m not trying hard enough. Children develop at their own pace and just because someone else’s child hit whichever milestone first doesn’t mean anything really.
Be more social. This is an area I’ve been working on all year. I have hermit tendancies and need to actively encourage myself to go out and spend time with people. I always have a lovely time when I do, but it’s just something that doesn’t come naturally to me and I’d like to work on that more next year.
Be kinder. I think this one will be on everyone’s list. It’s only natural that dealing with someone who is in a bad mood will put a dampener on your own. I’ve tried very hard this year not to take my bad moods out on other people but I still lose my temper a lot quicker than I’d care to admit. I want to work on this next year and learn to hold my tongue better.
Get in shape and be happier with my body. I’m not going to just say I want to lose weight; that’s too broad a goal. I want to get in shape. I want tone up my arms and legs. I don’t like being wobbly or look bulgy in my clothes. Once I’m able to, I will be starting a little exercise routine and build it up to something more intense as my fitness improves. I don’t feel the need to change what I eat as I don’t eat badly, I just need to tone.
Try not to buy any beauty products. This should be obvious given all the beauty products I own. It’s not an area I can afford to spend much money in next year. Unless it’s something I’ve run out of and I don’t have anything similar to replace it with, it’s not being bought. At least I’ll try my best to stamp out the urge.
Reduce my debt. I’ll admit it; I’m in quite a bit of debt, and it’s all my own fault. This topic will have its own post soon, the story of it takes a bit of explaining. Next year my main aim is to meet my payments and try my best not to use the cards.
Start saving. I was getting really good at saving this year and had built up a good amount, but then we got our own place. Things needed to be paid, other things needed bought; as well my regular card payments. My savings acted as a buffer for that period and helped so much. It taught me how important it is to have some kind of financial safety net and I’d like to build mine back up. Even if I can only manage £10 a week.
Stand On My Own Two Feet. Currently my family and I are a one income family, and a low income at that. We’re currently in receipt of a few benefits. At the risk of sounding ungrateful, it’s not ideal and not a position I ever thought I’d find myself in. This year I want to strive for financial independence and be able to support my family without handouts.
Document My Journey. I thought it would be a great idea to document my journey out of debt. I’ve read a few books along a similar vein, but always by people who are much higher earners than myself. I wanted to offer a different perspective for people with low incomes.
Get My Other Projects Off The Ground. I actually have several writing projects that I haven’t been able to bring to fruition. Mostly because notes for which ever project I was working on would grow legs and disappear, but now we’ve got our own place I have my own space to store all my notes together. But it was also my own lack of focus, which seems to be becoming less of a problem everyday. This year I want to complete at least one of my writing projects; hopefully that novel I’ve been working on since 2014.
Don’t Buy Any More Books. Have you seen how many books I own? It’s silly to own as many unread books as I do and then allow myself to let anymore enter the collection. I may pick up one or two releases from my very favourite authors but that’ll be it.
Read a book a week. I used to get so bogged down in trying to read all the books. I need to be more realistic. I don’t have as much free time, I can’t just stay up all night reading anymore; and, honestly I have other aspects of life I prioritise over reading. I don’t want to pressure myself to read more than is realistic.
Read What Interests Me. Along a similar vein as the last point, I need to stop pushing myself to read what other people have been reading. I browse my shelves and think “ugh, I must the only person who hasn’t read that”. In someways it puts me off reading that book. Next year I want to read whatever jumps out at me without thinking about all those books I haven’t read that I should have read by now. If I get to those books, great; if not, well, it’s not the end of the world.
What are your goals for next year?